. My hubby is a talker, too. Youve done this before. This went on all day. Holy fuuk. My mother, being Korean and not knowing any English had the most difficult time getting a hold of him. Those who knew Angela Dickinson said she could charm any man. My husband and I have had our problems with his drinking in the past. One suggestion was to bring food just in case I delivered in the middle of the night and the cafeteria was closed (everyone said Id be STARVING after delivery). At 6am. "I'd had bad diarrhea and an irritable stomach . Around 4:30 Sunday morning, I start pushing. OR MAYBE you've been putting it off for awhile and you're doing it because you know you need to stop procrastinating! Have you ever told him that? I was in labor (induced) for 48 hours while my husband was uncomfortable in his chair and feeling nauseous from a sandwich he ate. He took one too many wrong turns and we ended up in a dodgy end of town. He says to her Oh, the hospital said theyd call me as soon as anything happened As he was saying the words he knew hed made a mistake. Sylvia believes that every couple can transform their relationship into a happier, healthier one by taking purposeful and wholehearted action. Remember, youre not to be blamed for their habit. He said he needed to shower and run a couple of errands and get some lunch. In the car, everything was very annoying to me: the radio, the sound of my husband at the time talking on the phone, just everything. If it were me, I would tell him in no uncertain terms that if he wants to be there that he has to be 100% sober. -Jessica, My husband unabashedly complained about a canker sore while I was in labor. I woke DH up around 2 or so once I realized I was in labor, and he drove me 20 minutes to the hospital. My husband to me, You are loosing it. At 7 am, doctor broke my water. Hubbys problem is that he likes to talk. I was two weeks overdue, had been induced and then sent home because nothing was happening. Raspberry Leaf Tea. It's not good. my hubby went on smoke breaks during each contactions I had. This is YOUR own husband being an alcoholic. I called my husband at work around 6 p.m. to let him know I was in labor with our first and he said hed be home to take me to the hospital as soon as he wrapped a few things up. When we finally got there and I was hooked up to all of the machines, he went downstairs and then returned with a whole pizza that he ate in front of me knowing that I couldnt eat because I was in active labor. Were going to pop some bottles the celebrate the twins arrival. I wish men weren't so stupid about some things. It is quite difficult to deal with an alcoholic husbands emotional abuse. Then he gets home and wants a couple more glasses of wine. Tell him your concerns rationally and lovingly, and if he doesn't listen you have your answer as to the best course of action for you and your child on the day of labor and beyond. This, I really think that you need to convey how important it is to you and the baby, then make sure that he realizes how serious you are that you NEED a coach to help get you through this and if he is to drunk to do it then you will find someone else and he will be relegated to the waiting room. If we go anywhere and he has more than 2 drinks I drive home. It's like a moron twilight zone in here. Lets just say that he ended up spending the night in the hospital with me. Your scenario of DH's drinking hits so close to home for me. I was only at the hospital for two hours before she arrived. She told him and he freaked out, made himself puke (totally tmi) and then was a paranoid mess the whole drive to the hospital. but this isn't just within my relationships i'd say it's with friendships and working environment - REALLY envy those that have any guts to say what they feel. My husband ripped a huge, disgusting fart while I was in labor and then got offended when I gave him the dirtiest look I possibly could. He will have a beer or two these days, but knows not to get drunk during my last few weeks of pregnancy. Amen. The hospital was an easy drive. More than that is considered heavy drinking, and as previously stated 5+ on any one occasion is considered binge drinking. Its not a movie wherein things change quickly. I told him if I missed my epidural window I would end his life. Reach out to rescue them only when they seek out help. Jaime Clark didn't feel contractions with her first baby, either. Every year, nearly 9,000 women in the U.S. go into labor and, unable to make it to the hospital, have an unplanned or unattended birth at home or in the car on the way to the hospital. I am starving and not allowed to eat so I order him out of the room. I wish you luckI would talk to him now about this habit! I think there should be another thread about crap husands pull after the baby is born. Whos really stupid? We had time though E was scheduled to be induced and, although I didnt realize it, I was actually in labor the whole night before. Thanks for sticking with us for a full year. I understand your concern about getting to the hospital when you're in labor, but have you considered the bigger picture? I know the tone has gotten pretty intense, but it shouldn't interfere with the central message: the behavior you're describing in your husband is binge drinking, and the more often he does it, the worse off your family will be. Good grief you have issues. He said that it was probably nothing and I should try to get some sleep. My brother gets a Popeyes meal for my husband and tries to eat it in the hospital room with me. That's some heavy drinking. Braxton hicks are most often painless or at the worst, uncomfortable. My mom always tells the story of when she was in labor with my sister, on Thanksgiving Day, and somewhere around 20-so hours of labor my dad ate a full Thanksgiving dinner, turkey drumstick and all, right in front of her. He took my concerns seriously and that is the important part. Look at some of the comments and then talk about stupid. This was compounded by the fact I went from water breaking to transition skipping the first four stages of labor ( I couldnt even talk). I guess I had it pretty good! around 9 he came to bed, moved me over and tried to go to sleep. We asked around and found 10 different ways women knew they were in labor. I ended up wandering around the hospital and eventually bumped into him as he was on his way back in Camera. The nurses were advising and waiting on him. I would be wasted if I had 5 drinks. The elevator went up to the maternity clinic where i had to yell for help because i couldnt walk. For example, someone might have a problem with drinking but deny it to themselves or their loved ones to avoid admitting they have a drinking problem. -Carrie, After I finally agreed to an epidural, the nurse explained that it would feel like a quick little bee sting. So, while I was practically under our bed from being doubled over in pain, looking at his watch, he said, I think you need to be more in tune with your body.. He drinks every night. Also I agree with a pp that it should be a conversation on the weekend or when he's realaxed and preferably sober. He went home to sleep in our bed so he could get some rest. Mortified. I was asking in honor of my pregnant sister (aka Dr. B) and planning on posting some watch-outs for my very nervous brother-in-law before the big event. He slept it off too long, that should be the only issue, nit that he ate. -Amber, My husband made me wait for him to finish watching Gladiator after my water broke. Why do you women, not tell your foolish husbands long before you give birth, what you will not tolerate from him during your birth. I think he needs a friend intervention - sounds like he would not listen to you. I don't know if this has impacted on the way I hold my emotions, but I tend to really bottle everything up until it all becomes too much - even then though it's VERY difficult to communicate any angst or anything that's bothering me. (But I still decided to stay 2 more hours at home because the nurse said to wait it out when I called them. You know, the stuff you still hold over his head. I could even understand maybe a beer or glass of wine a night (which I still think every night is pushing it) BUT 5+ a nightdo you think that is normal behavior? Allison Leonard/Ilona McCarty. He never got that chance. She was even . On the way there, he takes a random left turn and lets me know he needs to stop at the ATM because he has no money. The only way to stop this from happening is to let your husband know that you wont tolerate any unacceptable behavior of theirs under any circumstances. All they could do was pace the floor in the waiting room. I went into Labor at 1AM after Superbowl Sunday - DH drank a good part of the day and night and had gone to bed around 11 that. She thought it might go away. One of the major issues that you, as the wife of an alcoholic husband, may face is awkward situations in public or family gatherings. He replied that he didnt feel so well. I'm so sorry that you are going through this, I wouldn't wish it on anyone. My water had broken at 6pm while I was at work, they wouldnt allow me to drive home and the doc said it was too early to come in so I waited over an hour for my now ex husband to pick me up. 1.) This is the best Ive got: Luckily, I had the exact opposite experience . You willingly married and created a child with an annoying drunk and yethe's the stupid one. Oh. It was like something from a movie. Im so fed up that I almost want a divorce. After the haircut I assume we will be leaving for the hospital and then he informs me he needs to take a shower to get the hair off. 5 drinks a night sounds like a problem bigger than just worrying about having a sober ride to the hospital. When I mentioned this is really beginning to hurt, his comment? He only ever left my side to grab a bite once in the cafe. And then figured hed take care of some business while he was on the line. Time. I had a very, very fast labor (from nothing to a baby in my arms in 7 hours). husband drunk when i went into labor. By talking to him about your problems, you will be able to get the support you need to overcome these challenges and move on with your life. If I were you, I would have a back up plan. Jackass. When I was in labor with our son my wife was AMAZING, a true hero. During pregnancy, the cervix stays closed and plugged up with mucus (aptly called the "mucus plug"). My husband took nearly two hours to have lunch with his mom at the hospital, after he had been helping me through contractions all morning. He was only slightly better with our third. However, he also started to diet right around the same time, so I think that helped. . Also, alcoholic parents have a higher incidence of raising alcoholic children. I asked for all the ridiculous stuff your husbands pulled while you were in labor. And then I was really shocked when talking with an older lady at church who told me she went into labor naturally on Dec. 31, 1964, and the maternity ward was . Wear sneakers. where do you file a complaint against a hospital; failure to pay full time and attention va code; bones angela and hodgins in jail; mirabella svadobny salon dubnica nad vahom Here is a picture of him, having a little lie down with Jack about 20 minutes after he was born. Its never easy to be with an alcoholic husband, but these things can surely help. No matter how much you date a person before marriage, some things are revealed afterward. My husband and I heeded the advice and packed a bunch of snacks. Im late to the party but here is a story for you I remember thinking . But still no medal. Pregnant . posts, and comments anonymously, in any medium. Get this man an epidural. Lol! I come into the living room and give her a kiss. She gives me her phone number . took a look and her and said he was glad it was over and that she looked like a spider monkey. He was waiting for my sister to get home so that my car didnt get left in the parking lot. So, they may play the trick on you. People with drinking problems do no slow their drinking down just "because" nor do they consider how their drinking will affect the other people in their lives. The love and support of your family can help you cope during this difficult time and give you the encouragement you need to get back on track. Also, per Davidson, never, ever wear open-toed shoes to the hospital. Its a natural tendency to try and take control of the alcoholic husband in order to make things right. What else am I supposed to do?-Tina, In the delivery room, my husband went into hypoglycemic shock because he hadnt eaten in 48 hours. Sharing your thoughts and feelings with your spouse can help both of you cope with the emotional effects of recovering from addiction. My hubby has a habit of drinking a lot (over 5 drinks in an evening) after a rough day at work, and I'm worried I'll go into labor, and he'll be extremely buzzed. Yeah. He finally comes back as I was about to go investigate (and by investigate, I mean cause bodily harm) and explained that he had food stuck in his teeth so he had been trying to floss it out!!!!!! However, if you are determined to recover from it and stay sober, you can do it as long as you stay strong and focused. I said we didnt have that kind of time that Id gone from 5cm-8cm in 35 minutes. he replied no it didnt and rolled over to try and go back to sleep. She was great because she understood. It was winter so between contractions I had to warm up the car and take my bags out. If your husband is an alcoholic, the more you know about the disease, the better prepared you will be to deal with it.

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